Thanks to the miracle of the internet, we are able to easily stay in touch via e-mail and Skype. The other day was my mother in-law's birthday and we were video chatting with them. They asked if we were planning to visit them in Mexico this winter. Hubby took the advice from the fertility clinic's counsellor and dropped the IVF bomb.
They took it very well. I explained that the cost of IVF can be between $10,000 - $12,000 so we are saving our money for that and most likely will not be going to Mexico this year. All in all the talk went well, right up to the point where my Mother in-law said "I'm sure it would be cheaper to adopt".
Wow! Where did that come from? Adoption is great, but it's not for everyone. And it's not a simple process either. Plus, I have done some research and it's not free. I said to her "actually the adoption process is very similar in costs to IVF". She replied "well you don't have to adopt from a foreign country".
At this point I'm thinking that if you don't know anything about a topic, keep your mouth shut. Quite truthfully, adoption is expensive wether you do domestic or foreign. Which is a shame as there are so many children who need homes and adoption is cost-prohibitive for so many couples.
So I left the conversation before I said something that I couldn't take back. Adoption is not an alternative to IVF. While many couples may pursue both, many others will pursue neither. For us - I don't know where adoption fits.
Sigh, I wonder how the IVF conversation will go with my parents. I really hope that our IUI worked so we won't have to go there!