Wednesday, July 28, 2010

WARNING: Rant Ahead

Being pregnant somehow makes you a magnet to stupid comments and unwanted advice. I'm really trying to gather all the patience that I can in order to deal with this. By nature I'm a very private person, and ever since I was a very small child, I have hated to be told what to do! I've already blogged about some of the comments here and here so I won't rehash it all again.

This is a private blog. Known only to strangers (although some of you have become friends) and a couple of hand-selected, close friends in real life. I also have a personal blog known to my friends and family in the real world.

I think it was after being asked again whether or not my pregnancy was planned, or maybe it was after seeing a comment on getting lots of sleep now from someone on Facebook, that I finally had it. It was the proverbial final straw of my politeness.

Being mindful that others probably also don't like to receive unwanted advice I wrote a carefully worded post asking people to please stop with the comments. I promised to ask if I had questions, but for now, I didn't want to hear about it.

Can you guess what the result was? Oh go ahead, you know you want to! The result was I didn't hear from anyone in my family or close friends for 2 weeks. I didn't even hear from my mom when I e-mailed her our ultrasound photos on Friday! I finally sent her an e-mail on Monday saying WTF? - and she replied "I didn't want you to think that I was giving you unwanted advice".

Yup, I apparently offended several people at whom the post was never even directed at!

So I give up! I know you can't please everyone, but this is ridiculous! So I took down the post (although I was tempted to write a new one entitled "Grow Up"). And I think that I will stop with the pregnancy updates too (except here of course).

Anyway, I'm so frustrated I could just scream! And all along I thought that it was the pregnant women who were supposed to be all emotional and irrational!

Wordless Wednesday - Another Parenting Fail!

Again I'm trying to figure out the inner dialogue going on in this Mom's mind. First at the store when she bought the baby stripper outfit, then as she looked around the house for a suitable "stripper pole" for a baby, and then as she tried to figure out an appropriate routine for a 4 month old. I just don't get it.

You would think that by now the folks over at would have enough material like this to start a whole new website. Kate over at Busted Plumbing likes to refer to these photos as "And Yet These People Can Procreate?" It's such a kick to the uterus to the Infertiles to see such things (so why to I keep sharing them?).

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Had a Doctor Appointment Today

With each milestone, I start to feel more relaxed and excited. I had an appointment with my Doctor today. Each time I hear that heartbeat on the doppler it brings me such joy. I'm sorely tempted to go to one of those places where you can pay them to record the heartbeat and then they will put it into a teddy bear for you. I could listen to that sound all day.

The bad news is that my placenta is low and may be covering the cervix. The doctor is not worried as she said that is common and it will most likely move (did you know that a placenta could move? I keep picturing it like a little crab walking all over my uterus now). But to make sure I will have to have another ultrasound in about 10 weeks. Oh shucks. Until then if I experience any bleeding, no matter how slight, I am to get my butt to the hospital ASAP! Thank goodness that hasn't been a problem.

While I might not be comfortable enough to rush out to buy things for the baby just yet, I've had a smile on my face ever since the appointment.

The doctor did say to add more calcium to my diet. So, being the cooperative patient that I am, I got myself a Blizzard on the way home. I told Hubby that I was just following doctor's orders!

Sunday, July 25, 2010

My Own FAIL Blog photo

I came across this little gem while out shopping today:

Sad really. I guess the consolation is that it was found in the clearance section.

Friday, July 23, 2010

18 Week Ultrasound!

As I mentioned yesterday, today was my 18 week ultrasound. I've got to be honest with you. I was terrified. I don't know if I was scared because of our prior loss and the fact that I still haven't felt any movement, or if because I've known so many women who've had mid-pregnancy losses. Either way I was definitely more scared than excited.

This morning I dreamed about the appointment. I dreamed that we got into the exam room and the technician asked Hubby "how long has the dementia been here?" I'm thinking: dementia? What the heck is she talking about? Sure I'm more forgetful lately but why is she talking dementia?

While this dialogue is going through my head Hubby calmly answers "oh, about a month now". So now I'm totally confused! Next thing I know she showing us that the baby is a boy. Then the cat woke me up. Pregnancy does strange things to your mind!

Our actual appointment was not like that at all. The technician was great and didn't bring up dementia at all! She even put my mind at ease by telling me that she didn't feel any movement in her pregnancy until week 24.

The baby is very, very active. She had a lot of trouble getting the shots she needed to take the right measurements. Thankfully, all organs and bones are where they should be and look great. The heartbeat was 150 BPM.

My uterus was somewhat contracted so she couldn't get a good look at my uterus. Then the baby was blocking our view and would not move so she couldn't check the umbilical cord either. She said that there is a tiny chance of placenta previa and said that I will have to come back in another 10 weeks or so for another ultrasound. She really wasn't concerned so I'm not concerned - and I'll get to see the baby again!

Enough of my ramblings, here's the baby!

The Terminator face:

Profile shot with open mouth:

Right ear

Right foot

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Do You Know What Tomorrow Is?

Tomorrow's a big day in the Yuppy household. Do you know what I'm talking about? No, not even a guess? I'll give you a couple of clues.
  • I'm not referring to the impending arrival of Hubby's parents for the weekend
  • A 3rd kitten is not in the works
  • We aren't buying a new car (we already did that - did I mention that to you all?)
No guesses yet?
  • It is Friday
  • The weather is supposed to be awesome
  • Hubby will have to leave work for about an hour and a half
How about now? Should I put you out of your misery?
  • I need to drink 500mL at 9:30am
  • Shortly after (with a full bladder) Hubby and I will most likely have to wait about a half hour in a crowded waiting room with old magazines
Okay, I'm out of cryptic clues. Tomorrow is our anatomy scan!! I'll get to see our baby again. I can't wait to see him/her moving around in there (since I can't feel anything yet). So keep your fingers crossed that it all goes well.

Updates to follow!

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Wordless Wednesday - Fetal Facepalm!

Caption: These are my parents?

Possibly referring to this guy:

Sunday, July 18, 2010

No Sitter? No Problem!

It's the weekend. What to do, what to do? You know what I'd really like to do right now? I'd love to go to the pub and play some VLT's. Oh darn, I can't do that, I don't have a sitter. Oh wait, I have an idea! It's the perfect plan. Win-win some might even say:

I was trying to figure out the inner dialogue in the above woman's mind. I'm sure it went something like that.

Got another idea of how this mom (& baby) ended up gambling together? Leave it in the comments! So many of you are super creative, I can't wait to read them.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Stating the Obvious

***WARNING*** This post may turn into a rant.

Do you remember when I posted about the unwanted advice and comments that people are now sharing with me? As predicted, it's getting worse. While I know that people are trying to be helpful (or maybe not), you have to understand that I am a very independent and stubborn woman. I don't like to receive unsolicited advice. I am mature enough to ask for help if I want it.

Earlier this week (while still on holidays) I posted as my Facebook status: It's Monday morning, I'm on vacation, so why am I awake at 7am? One of the comments was "get used to it, it's training" - Um yeah, okay. Like I'm not already up at 5:30 am on weekdays to go to work?

Other comments have included: Your house has a lot of stairs you better get some baby gates - Really? I hadn't noticed that we have stairs in our house. Plus, I also didn't realize that newborns were able to climb stairs.

But by far the worst comment that I have heard (by more than one person) is: Was this planned? - Who the Hell asks someone that? 1 - it's none of your business & 2 - it's none of your business!

I do realize that people are trying to be nice, but I wonder - did they actually enjoy hearing these comments when they were pregnant? Is that why they are regurgitating them to me?

So, to all those people out there full of obvious remarks and useless advice I just have to say:
I am a 37 year old woman, who is financially secure, and owns her own home (in conjunction with the bank). I was not deposited on this planet last week. I am fully aware of what my responsibilities towards my offspring will be. You are not aware of my situation and therefore should not assume that you know everything. If you wish to state the obvious, do not do so in my presence or you risk the wrath of an angry pregnant woman!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Gotta Go (always)

May I say that I have always prided myself on the size of my bladder? I know, it sounds really, really weird, but it's true. Imagine you're in a bar with your friends and for every 3 bathroom trips that they make, you make one.

But now my bladder has rebelled! I swear that I get the urge to pee every 30 - 45 minutes. And the crappy part is (definitely no pun intended) that usually, I don't really need to go. Plus, even though I've been sleeping through the night without incident for the better part of 35 years, now I'm lucky to get 3 - 4 hours of sleep before the urge to go hits me.

If the baby is big enough to disrupt my bladder functions, why can't I feel him/her yet?

Okay, whining done.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Wordless Wednesday - Why Does it Feel Like Monday?

Monday, July 5, 2010

An Observation

Why is it that when you're an Infertile going through cycle after cycle of IPS and TTC that all you see everywhere are grim reminders that you're not pregnant? Like reserved "preggo parking" stalls? But when you are finally in the family way it's as if all of these stalls suddenly disappeared?

Those signs were a grim reminder to me for many years of what I didn't have and now they are few and far between. Maybe my problem is that I'm too honest. Looking back, I should have taken advantage of the preggo parking spaces during every single 2 week wait. After all, my body was giving me all of the symptoms that I was pregnant, I really should have just listened to it.

To my Infertile friends: don't make this same mistake. Take advantage of the preggo parking during your 2ww. No one will question you. Besides, in your mind you ARE pregnant.

Sunday, July 4, 2010

16 Weeks

Can you believe that I'm 16 weeks pregnant? Nope, me neither.

Physically, I'm feeling really good. If I eat regularly I can keep the nausea and headaches away. I'm not nearly as fatigued as I was during the first trimester either. Next milestone: feeling the baby move (hurry up!).

Hubby and I started to do some budgeting to figure out what this kid is going to cost us (initial costs - we haven't even begun to look at things like school and activities yet). Babies don't come cheap, and why do they need so many things?

We agree that we will not buy certain items used: crib, crib mattress, car seat, stroller, etc. I've looked up some items for sale online used already and there's quite a few available: glider, change table. But, no matter how good the deals are, we aren't buying anything until September at the earliest.

One of my co-workers lives for babies. If she sees a baby or a toddler the world stops for her. She's probably more excited (at least openly) about our baby than we are. Every day she comes to me with tips and advice - and while I know she's well-meaning, it's really annoying. Last week she told me about a baby clothing sale at Zellers. I said thanks, but we won't be buying anything until the fall at least. I think that she was upset that I didn't drop everything and rush to the store! Besides, what would be the point of buying baby clothes now? Our baby will be born in the winter not the summer.

24 weeks to go.

Friday, July 2, 2010

When a Door Closes, Open a Window

This morning while lying in bed thinking of reasons not to get up (as always, my bladder won - its entirely incapable of having a rational argument), I got to thinking about all of the losses that my Internet friends have experienced lately. Some of them past 20 weeks of pregnancy.

With this pregnancy I've tried to get excited as I reach various milestones (seeing the heartbeat, making it past my loss date, a successful NT scan, finishing the 1st trimester), but I truly can't get excited. So much can still happen. I haven't felt the baby move yet (usually happens between 16 - 20 weeks), and I know that this is the next milestone that I am reaching for.

By all accounts this has been a successful and uneventful pregnancy and I know that I should be thrilled. And truly some small part of me is. But I have seen too much heartache as an Infertile. Do you remember when I posted about Brandi and her most recent loss? Hers was also an uneventful pregnancy.

I didn't intend for this post to be all about my fears - just trust me, they're still here. Back to lying in bed. I got to thinking that the Internet is a blessing and a curse. I've learned so much and met some wonderful people - and I know without them I would have had a hard time moving on from my loss. But it also reminds me that there is so much pain and loss out there. What is it in the Universe that wants some families to have such heartache? And for some repeated heartache?

So this morning I'm all down and pissy about the Universe. Then I jump online and find this post by Brandi. It seems the Universe has given hope back to Brandi and David. And they need it. I think that they have suffered enough and I, for one, am thrilled at the possibility of them finally becoming parents in 2010.

Today I saw that when a door closes another opens. Or something like that. Congratulations Brandi and David. My fingers are crossed for you.

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